We’ve been married for five years — happily, or so I thought.
We have shared all our assets prior to our marriage, including our current accounts and bank accounts, etc. I continued to work for five years after we married, and I just retired at 65. My husband is 71 and was retired before I met him, his only income being Social Security benefits. As an only child, he recently inherited his parents’ home and a large sum of money.
To my surprise, he has not added my name to the house or the bank accounts that belonged to his parents. We have no wills at this point, and we live in California. I understand that an inheritance is not community property unless you make it so. If the shoe were on the other foot, I would have added his name to the deed. I’m hurt and apprehensive about where I stand.
Should I tell him how I feel? Can you give me some advice?
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Here’s the good news: You stand exactly where you stood the moment before your husband received word of his inheritance. Your place in this relationship has not changed. I do have a question for you: If you were married 35 years, would you still be hurt that he did not add you to the deed? I wonder if your apprehension is related to a feeling of financial and emotional insecurity within the relationship that would, perhaps, not have existed if you were married longer.
After all, how well do we really know someone? After 35